Frequently asked questions

What does autism mean for my child?

Autism is a neurodevelopmental difference. It affects how your child communicates, processes the world, and interacts with others. It is a vast spectrum and some very successful and influential people have a ASD diagnosis. It doesn’t mean they’re broken — it means they experience life differently.

Will my child ever talk?

Some autistic children speak later, some use alternative communication like AAC or PODD books, and some may stay non-speaking — but all have something to say. Communication always comes, just sometimes in a different form. Personally my son was non verbal till 4yrs, i use to worry constantly if he would ever talk. However, with some motivation and help he now talks my ear off!

How can I make my home more autism-friendly?

Start with calm spaces, visual schedules, sensory tools, and predictable routines. Small changes can make a big difference in reducing stress and meltdowns. Remi is a physical stimmer, i got a swing and made a safe "Crash Area" for him. In addition to picture stories to help him understand what to do when his body is dis-regulated he learnt how to listen to his body and what to do. Autistic children need help with repetition and remembering what to do. Identifying this and environmental triggers helped me help him.

How do I help my child at school?

You can request support like an aide or individual learning plan. Meet with the school, share your child’s needs, and advocate for inclusive practices. You don’t have to do it alone — we can help guide you. I had a horrific experience, i was denied by over 15 daycares before Remi started prep and didnt know then what i know now. Advocating for your child is key and i can help you with what to ask and how to approach daycare through to Prep. I learnt the hard way so you don't have to.

What do I do when my child has a meltdown?

Stay calm, stay close, and keep them safe. Meltdowns aren’t tantrums — they’re often caused by overwhelm.ed sensory processors (Fight or flight within the body) Autistic children can feel an incredible amount of stimuli in one go. Imagine hearing everything at the same decibel all at once That's what they feel and like all children don't know how to self regulate, often resulting in a meltdown. Prevention is key — I can help you learn your child’s triggers.

What if nothing I try is working?

You’re not failing. Autism isn’t one-size-fits-all. What works today might not work tomorrow — and that’s okay. That’s why having guidance, support, and lived experience matters so much. I know as a parent i was on the verge of burnout and was in a space that didn't have much more to give. A fresh set of eyes that care can sometimes see a new approach or troubleshoot options. I can help refill that cup and help tackle any issue you may have. 

How do I know if I’m doing enough?

If you’re here, asking, learning, and showing up — You are. Progress can be slow, messy, and non-linear. Your love, effort, and presence matter more than perfection. I often like to remind myself that before the 80"s there was very little knowledge or understanding around autism and history has produced some of the most influential and brilliant people with Autism Like.......

 

  • Albert Einstein – Physicist and mathematician

  • Sir Isaac Newton – Mathematician and physicist

  • Nikola Tesla – Inventor

  • Emily Dickinson – Poet

  • Michelangelo – Artist and sculptor

  • Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart – Composer

  • Charles Darwin – Naturalist

  • Dr. Temple Grandin – Scientist and autism advocate

  • Greta Thunberg – Climate activist

  • Anthony Hopkins – Actor

  • Dan Aykroyd – Actor and comedian

  • Satoshi Tajiri – Creator of Pokémon

  • Chris Packham – Naturalist and broadcaster

  • And the list goes on…

They didn't have parents with half the knowledge we do. They grew up in a world with no understanding or acceptance and went on to be great. 

Just by reading this you are doing so much for your child and this day and age is one of the most supportive times to have a diagnosis. 

 

What therapies should I look into?

Every child is different. Speech therapy, occupational therapy, and psychology are common starting points. The key is finding therapists who understand and respect neurodiversity, not just try to "fix" behaviors. Whats more important is finding a therapist that cares, that you feel comfortable with and can engage your child and put in the work. I have gone through many therapists and have even had a couple dishonest ones. Its a daunting task.

Is it okay to grieve after a diagnosis?

Yes. You’re not grieving your child, you’re grieving the expectations you held. It’s part of the process — and it doesn’t mean you love your child any less. Be kind to yourself.

My grief was based a lot in fear, Fear of the Unknown. 

Will he live a good life?, Will he ever live on his own? Will he get married?, Will he have children?, Will he have friends?, Will he be able to ever talk to me?, how bad is his Autism?I was also grieving the child i thought i was going to have.

A great analogy I once heard was, Its like planning a trip to England. You plan your itinerary, buy winter clothes for the trip, get a guide book, plan the major sights,prepare essentially.

Only to get on the plane and land in South America!

You didn't plan for this, you know nothing of the country and don't speak the language!

Obviously you are upset about this change, devastated even, however, South America is beautiful, just not what your prepared for. You slowly learn your way around, buy different clothing to suit the heat, are amazed by just as many sights and by the end of it you could speak a little Spanish!! Autism is very much the same, just a different journey than what you planned.

Should I tell people my child is autistic?

That’s a personal choice. Some parents choose to share openly to raise awareness, others prefer privacy. There’s no right or wrong — just what feels safe for your family. Some of my family were in denial and some could see it clearly. As parents ultimately you are in charge of this choice and you don't have to explain yourself to anyone. 

What if my child doesn’t respond to their name?

This is common in autistic children. It’s not rudeness — it can be sensory overload or delayed processing. Try using visual cues or gently getting close before speaking. Even now that my son is verbal i know i have to touch some part of his body to draw eye contact, and as a result his attention. There are ways to help your child understand the social expectations around communication, they just need a bit more time to master them.

Why does my child flap their hands or spin in circles?

That’s called “stimming” — a self-soothing behavior that helps regulate emotions or sensory input. It’s completely normal and often brings comfort and joy. Other things like chewing, leaning into you or a repetitive sounds help your child regulate. While hand pulling, pushing and pulling are learned behaviours that have worked in place of verbal communication. Either way your child is using non verbal communication and understanding these can give us great insight in how to support your child.

 

I feel overwhelmed. Is that normal?

Yes. Parenting an autistic child can be beautiful and exhausting. You’re navigating systems, emotions, and daily challenges. You’re doing great — and you don’t have to carry it all alone.

Research shows that autism parents experience 2–3 times more daily stress than parents of non-autistic children. It’s no surprise — we’re managing behaviors, appointments, school meetings, and emotional burnout, often without a break. You’re not imagining it.

This is hard — and you’re doing an incredible job.. Its also very isolating, we are often the only parent in the room trailing our child like a hound, wrangling them in the midst of a public meltdown and can't talk to any non divergent parent, family or friends about it, because they just don't get it. Anna does and through this we can build you a village to lean on

First consult is free

Anna's first session with you is absolutely free of charge. Whats important is support and the rest can be worked out later.